Well, the taboo topic became the talk of the Indiblogger town after author Poonaam Uppal tied up with Team IB to learn from the bloggers what they think about the idea of pre-marital sex. Ms. Uppal has authored a 1084 page book A Passionate Gospel of True Love: A Mystical True Love Story an autobiography of sorts, where she charts her journey from a small Indian town to a glitzy American city, and discovering true, passionate love on the way. In the book, Uppal also tries to explain in great detail, her vision about the concept of true love.
You got the drift, right? Talking sex is a big no, no for us. Even Aamir Khan’s latest release, PK, takes a dig at the topic – everyone does it but you are not supposed to talk about it. Time and again, literary men too have shared their opinion on sex and their concerns about it being considered a tabooed domain.
So discussing sex is a taboo, a chee-chee topic, as many exclaim.
Now prefix a pre-marital to the word and there you go! Sit back and watch all hell break loose. Say one word in favour and character certificates wielding moral police would be out in a jiffy, branding you ‘loose’, a moron with no morals whatsoever. Even an indifferent stand will be frowned on upon, more often than not. So this more or less gives an idea about where we Indians stand when it comes to pre-marital sex.
But what I found most surprising was the fact that so far as the topic of pre-marital sex was concerned, most of us bloggers were sitting on the fence. In the sense that barring a few who thought pre-marital was anti-religion and invites the wrath of God in some way or other, most of us were on the ‘indifferent’ trajectory.
Pre-Marital Sex – A Personal Choice
To each their own. That’s my take on pre-marital sex. In essence, almost all religions disapprove sex before marriage. They describe it as an immoral act – something that is impure and defiles the body before it can enter into holy matrimony. But who am I to sit on the moral high chair and judge others on what they do with their bodies. During my college years, I was a assisting a retired professor, working on University books. We used to have long discussions about our (society’s) hypocritical tendencies. And this is what he had to say about sex – ‘You can be the biggest liar in the world, a thief, a fraudster, insensitive, selfish moron and what not – nobody will judge you, but you dare not have consensual sex with another man/woman – for then you will be judged. Multiple character certificates would be issued in a jiffy. You will be a certified ‘loose character’. Your sleeping with someone is everyone’s business here. The word ‘immoral’ in India implies just one thing – sex.’
I couldn’t agree more. Isn’t that way too myopic a view that our society has on sex?
Deciding when to have sex and who to have it with is a personal choice. So long as it is a consensual agreement between the partners and both are clear on where they stand in the physical relationship, the world at large should refrain from passing judgemental opinions about it being acceptable or not.